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More crappy online dating ‘First Messages’

Hey dudes (and ladies, I’m sure, too). Want to know why no one is responding to your messages on online dating sites? Because you’re sending crappy messages like the following messages I’m about to show you. Please note, these are all word-for-word messages that I’ve received in the past few days.

“Hi. How are you?”

“Hey. What’s going on?”

“You are very beautiful. :)”

“Hello
How are you. Hope you had good day.
Nice to meet you over here .
How was your day.? I have tell you that you have very beautiful smile .. By reading your profile i would say You are perfect combination of beauty and smart..Any fun stuff planed for these spring days .”

“Hello how are you? I’m (name).”

“Hey how are you? My name is Mark and you are very cute and seem like a nice fun person. You sound like a busy girl and have done some really cool stuff.Hope your having a good day”

“think I’m in love will you marry me 🙂 kidding. how are ya?”

“tits”

Seriously guys?! COME ON. I know online dating can seem difficult, but it’s really not THAT hard to write a good first message. Good Lord.

face palm

Palm to the face. Ugh.

big spoon to little spoon- come in little spoon

I always love when Sabatino guest posts!

Say what you will, but I love being the big spoon.

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There’s just something to be said about being so close and finding that you fit together like perfect pieces of a puzzle.

Sometimes I crave it.  After a long, stressful day when nothing has gone quite right, there’s nothing I want more than to lazily curl up on the couch or in bed with you, pour us a few glasses of wine, and flip through the latest episodes of Boardwalk Empire.  There’s a certain closeness you get with spooning that you just can’t achieve with other romantic physical activity.  Like, feeling your back up against my chest, hips completely in sync, our legs tangled beneath the covers, and my lips dangerously close to your neck and ears.  To be a little cliche, it really is as if two become one, working together in complete harmony.

I find that spooning, at least for me, is the perfect time to bond with your significant other- when you’re smooshed up against each other and yet it still feels like you can’t get close enough.

For those of you who aren’t keen on spooning, keep in mind that women are very sensually oriented.  Luckily for me [as I’ll never admit to being the most handsome man in the world] they mostly respond to body heat, subtle touches, and fresh scents rather than visual stimulation.  This makes spooning the perfect opportunity to segway in to your other agendas, as your hands and lips are free to roam her body-scape. Plus, being the big spoon puts you in a position of control- something I find most women crave out of the men in their relationships.

Here are a few quick tips for all the big spoons out there.  First of all, your lips anywhere near her neck and ears will drive her crazy. Even kissing the back of her neck, just below the hair line will give her chills.  Subtly kissing her shoulders and the length of her back will peak her interest.  In fact, try running your lips in a curvy pattern down her back without ever lifting them up, slowly working your way down and up again, finishing just behind her ear.  Combine these techniques while firmly gripping her hips and pulling her close to you and you may be in for a long night.  When she turns around and throws her arms around you, you’ll know it’s on- just do me a favor and please don’t turn it in to a cheap 80′s porno.  Keep it classy and passionate.

FriendFlirt Podcast!!!

Hey everyone! Big news here!

I have been approached by Big Sauce Radio Show to come on and co-host a weekly show to discuss online dating, Friend Flirt, relationships, sex, dating in general, and what have you. I am so excited about this! You should check out the show currently, as it’s fantastic already (check it out here). It’s hilarious and lots of fun. Our new FriendFlirt shows will be totally awesome, which you’ll see.

Do you want to be a part of the show? Well, good news! There are several ways you can be involved!

First- We need your online dating horror stories!!! We want to share your horror stories with everyone for a good, clean laugh! Feel free to email your stories to social@friendflirt.com or you can even call our voicemail at 724-472-8235 and we’ll play your story on the air! You can choose to stay anonymous if you’d like or tell us your name- all up to you! But please, send some stories! You could also leave them as comments on this page if you’d like.

Second- Dudes, do you have a sick 6 pack? Ladies, does your man have killer abs? Know a guy that does? Send us pictures for our 6 Pack Brigade! Every week we’ll have a competition on who has the best 6 pack, with prizes!

Third- Ladies, want to show off your pedicure? Join our Pretty Pedi Posse! Same as the 6 Pack Brigade, every week we’ll show off pictures of your pretty tootsies and we’ll have prizes for whoever has the best one!

 

So there’s that! Please subscribe to The Big Sauce Podcast Show and check out the Friend Flirt show!

Our first recording will be Wednesday next week, so please send us your stories and photos now to get them on air for next week’s show!

 

xoxo Jess

Valentine’s Day for Everyone

Happy Valentine’s Day to all you, whether you’re dating or single, from all of us at FriendFlirt!

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If you’re in a relationship- have a great day with your sweetie. Whether you made special plans or no, I hope you’re enjoy the love you share with your special someone.

If you’re single- don’t hate on the day. It’s just another day. Nothing to really sweat. Just remember that someday you may be in a relationship and the day will have more meaning to you. 

Remember not to be bitter and not to be sad- you never know who may be falling in love with your smile!!

the lost art of romance

Another fabulous post by Love Guru, Sabatino!

The knot in your throat. Like your tie is too tight and you’re struggling to breathe.

This is what you should be feeling when you truly romance a woman.  Yeah I get it, women like confident men who are fearless, and edgy. But what you’re probably forgetting (and what women are giving up on) is that once in a while they want to see that side of you that only they can bring out- the cheesy, unconditional, “only for you” side.  And sometimes unleashing that inner Romeo takes confidence, fearlessness, and edge.

It should go without saying, but I will clarify that “romancing” and “sleeping with” are two totally separate goals, and should be treated as such.

So, when is the right time to be romantic?  This is ridiculous. Listen. You can’t just be romantic on her birthday and Valentines Day. Try something a little less obvious, like Tuesday.  Maybe you’ve both been hard at work, and your home life has you running in all directions.  Maybe have something prepared when she gets home from a busy day at the office.  And it doesn’t always have to be dinner, and sex should never be expected at the end- however, if you learn to be romantic, you’ll be surprised where things will lead.  Also, don’t get discouraged.  If she’s tired when she gets home and you’re feeling like she doesn’t appreciate your efforts, just let her unwind and relax.  Sometimes a romantic evening together starts with a little alone time.  Trust me, she’ll much more appreciate all you’ve done once she has had time to herself.

Every woman is different and shouldn’t be treated as though she was formed from a cookie cutter, so it’s up to you to decide what “romancing” means in your own relationship.  Take her wants and needs in to careful consideration, and formulate a plan that includes both of you joining together for an evening of love, passion, and fun.  I promise you won’t regret it.

Grown Up Relationships – What do you do with them?

Here’s another post from Jane at Singleosophy and Are You Friggin’ Kidding Me?

What do you do with a grown up relationship?

 

This is something I’ve been thinking about since I graduated college in 2008. More so now that I actually feel like more of a “grown up” with my own apartment and dating in the big city.

So okay. You’re hanging out with this guy. You’re hanging out quite a bit. Everything is going awesome. You’re not seeing anyone else and positive he’s not seeing anyone else either. What now?

What I mean is- at what point do they become “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend”?

I didn’t date much in college. I had one serious boyfriend and he just outright said “is it cool if I call you my girlfriend?” and it was done.

How does that happen in grown up land?

Also- the word “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” just sounds so silly to me, as an adult.

I know that labels aren’t everything, but let’s face it- most of us (women…..) like the label. It just makes things easier when introducing your partner to someone or when you’re talking about them.

So assuming that we’re going to be labeling things, what the fuck do you do with a grown up relationship?

The Three Month Mark

Here’s another post by our Love Guru, Bossy Moksie!

 

Most of my dates don’t go beyond the three month mark.

I notice things right away that I know won’t gel with me for a long period of time. And if there’s not much to offset this, then I’m outta there! It’s better to do this sooner rather than later. As time goes on, you get attached and too comfortable to let go of someone who is not right for you.

How do you know?

You have to listen to yourself.

If I don’t feel completely comfortable opening up and being myself, then I know it won’t work. This is after the first few dates of getting used to being around each other. Why would I want to be with someone negative, arrogant or doesn’t get me or doesn’t have the same values? I know that won’t work longterm. So why stay longer than one date? Or in some cases, three months?

Sometimes after a few dates, I will try to talk myself into it. Because there are things I do enjoy about this person. His company or humor or the way he works that white business shirt. But after awhile, I just know we are wasting time and three months is the longest I can take it. It’s best to face the reality and own up to it, then just be with someone for the sake of being someone. Plus if you’re wasting your time on someone you know isn’t right for you, then you won’t have the chance to meet someon who is!

How and when did some of you ladies know your guy was the one? Or not the one?

Same question to the guys.